Saying “No” is Getting Easier

But only a little.

Photo by Marcos Paulo Prado on Unsplash

“I don’t want to be in a relationship with you or anybody now. After you, there has been no one….”

It’s been close to two years since I’ve been “involved” with anyone — and our involvement could only just barely be called an involvement.

involved: adjective (DIFFICULT)

not simple and therefore difficult to understand.

This man was/is one of the most physically beautiful humans I have ever allowed to “put his slippers under my bed” as Grandma K. used to say giggling.

We met several years earlier through a loosely defined group of artists on Facebook. We commented on each other’s art from time to time.

A few years ago on New Year’s Day, I received notes from three different guys.

• Note #1 was unpleasant from my last husband.
• Note #2 was another in a long series of game-playing-drama-inducing notes from my former boyfriend.
• Note #3 was a lighthearted “hello there” from a man I only vaguely knew.

I was sitting on my couch with a hot cup of coffee staring into a fresh new year while staring at all three notes on my laptop and thought to myself, “hmmm, this is interesting.”