I had a partner with very serious ed issues. When he told me early in our relationship, I wasn’t concerned at all. I knew there were many ways to please each other beyond the ol’ in and out standard. He was so traumatized about not being able to get an erection it became/was his sole focus - unbeknownst to me. Initially I understood his ed was related to an underlying unresolved health issue. Later I decided it was related to his extreme guilt and feelings of inadequacy. He’d had an ongoing affair for 1/2 of his 30 year marriage - his ed began during his long-term affair. We’ve not been together for years. Being in bed with him turned into a nightmare.